Dearest Someone, is a blog dedicated to sharing personal stories of mental health. Led by one individual, Ella works to discuss matters that are personal to her own recovery, as well as others.

“Writing is very therapeutic for me, it’s an emotional outlet and a way for me to make sense of things. I struggle with post-traumatic stress disorder, which -for me- has many symptoms that coincide with anxiety, manic behaviour and so forth. I began this blog as a way of reaching out to others who are going through similar struggles (I use the word struggle here as for me it does at times seem like a daily battle!)

“I also re-blog and share other stories (Mental Health related) that I find interesting – it’s great to see so many people sharing their story.

“The response I’ve received so far has been fantastic, and I hope to continue sharing my stories with others, and releasing my feelings. I regularly follow and track similar blogs, and individuals and it is a very positive action for me – I’m hoping that this blog will help to raise mental health awareness – offering support and a sense of understanding.”


Thanks for dropping by! 



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Where are you based?

I’m from Essex, but I’m based in Birmingham at the moment. I do travel around the UK a lot though; a lot of my time is spent in London. I also spend a lot of time in Cornwall, it’s somewhere that holds a lot of memories for me, and is one of my favourite places to be.


This is a ‘personal’ mental health blog, what have you been diagnosed with?

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) 

Read more here: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/#.VaQmN19Viko


Why did you start this blog?

I started Dearest Someone, because when I’m really struggling with things I write letters, or diary entries. It’s something I’ve always done, I think that trying to explain yourself to a stranger (someone) often allows you to view things from a different perspective. It also makes you think about what you are feeling, which I think is always a good thing.

Also, for me it was in part due to a lack in content that I felt able to relate to. I find that PTSD is often associated with combat, or war related trauma – which is completely understandable. However, for a long time I found it strange to come to terms with certain things, and being diagnosed with PTSD finally helped me to understand the way I’ve been ‘dealing’ with things.


Do you only blog about PTSD?

Definitely not. When reading through this blog you will notice that I’ve been open about certain traumas, but there are certainly aspects of my story that I do not share. There are things that I do not feel comfortable writing about, but I always try to create a clear and honest portrayal of how I am trying to deal with things. PTSD is what I was initially diagnosed with, however I often find it easier to identify my mental illness as depression and anxiety (with past events as the triggers for this). I blog about my experience with mental illness – this often includes writing about things such as the media portrayal of mental health, things that help me cope, my recovery and other aspects that I feel directly relate to my wellbeing (this includes general lifestyle stuff, as well as talking about current issues of debate).






  1. Thank you for finding and following my blog I will follow in return my words are written for the same purpose. Recently I was diagnosed ptsd due to a long a disastrous marriage plus other reason.. I am learning about ptsd


    • Morning – thank-you for this comment! I think it is fantastic that you are writing with the same purpose (though I know it sucks that we’re in this situation.) I’ve found that writing is a great way to release emotion – but I don’t know if you are similar to me in that sometimes you do not know whether you should publish certain things.

      However, I’ve found that the more I write about my own experiences then the more I understand what I am going through. Through reading others blogs (such as yours) I’m aware that PTSD is such a complex, confusing thing – we all deal with things in different ways, yet we are going through such a similar situation. It really is great to see others sharing their story – so thank-you 🙂


      • You are so right as I read your reply, to come across someone so understanding, I wish I was talking to my sister. Getting her to understand what was going on with my body has been a challenge.I will gradually put more up, mine has been more to do with a long marriage with 35 yrs of d.v.


      • I’m sorry to hear about your story – I only hope that you find some way to articulate what you are feeling, I find that at times it’s more difficult to tell those you care about, or those who are close, exactly how you are feeling – for me this is because I don’t want them to feel like they’ve let me down. It’s hard when you have to deal with the blocks that your own mind is enforcing, then finding the words or the way to express yourself to those who are close is so much harder.

        Just keep writing, and maybe once your ready (or your sister is ready) you will find a way to make your sister understand. Maybe show her your blog? 🙂


      • One day I might show her my blog. If you go back through my blog you will find some of my memoirs with out the nitty gritty. It is my life since settling in a new home, chapters as I have written them. I am not looking forward to doing the old stuff in my life but I know it is going to come. You are very kind

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  2. If you’re going the therapy route, I’ve heard fantastic feedback from people doing EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) for PTSD. I haven’t tried it myself as the idea makes me feel a little strange and there’s nobody trained in the process in my area, but like I said, I know quite a few people it has helped.

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    • Thank-you!

      I’m currently undergoing counselling – I have been since February last year and it really has worked for me! The thought of EMDR makes me feel a little strange too haha!

      I’ve been lucky enough to be diagnosed whilst being at university so the support I’ve received from both my GP and the mental health and wellbeing team at my university has been incredible!

      It’s tough as it means I have to deal with only being able to have a session once a week etc. but it’s done me a wealth of good so far! 🙂


      • *sigh* I miss weekly therapy. My therapist just told me I’ve got about ten sessions left and then it will be only an as needed thing. I think that is when I go downhill even more, feeling like I am losing support and that people think I am doing better than I actually am, as if they don’t see how truly messed up I still am.

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      • Maybe see it as a new journey once you finish your therapy? This is giving you the chance to start afresh and see how you work with certain things! If you really struggle then see if it is possible for you to get more sessions! 🙂


      • Hello! Pretty random comment from me I know haha – but I was re-reading through some comments on the blog and saw this one about EMDR – I’ve recently been offered EMDR and your comment has made me feel a lot more confident!

        All the best! x


      • Yes but in many ways “therapy” can be a trap as it systemises support into containorised boxes. When I walk with my dogs with the people I support and they identify with my Serbian rescue dog because the dog reminds them of theimselves and their lives and fights and survival then I know that therapy is alive in the everyday if we but have the aweareness to recognise it and one another! love John

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  3. Thank You Ever So Much For Following My Blog 🙂

    I enjoy coming over to yours to read and catch up on articles, it helps me realize that no-one is ever alone. You do a fantastic job 🙂 xxx

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  4. From what I read so far, your blog is wonderfully refreshing, and evocative in how forward your thoughts are shared.
    All the best to you Ella

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  5. Hi Ella. Thanks for following my blog. I hope that you find things to enjoy there.
    You have a worthwhile theme running through your blog here, and I wish you well with it. I will be back to read through more posts.
    Best wishes, Pete.

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  6. Thanks for this honest and informative article, Ella. I have a relative who suffers from PTSD, and know what a difficult disability that is. One of the worst things about it are the people in the ‘helping’ professions, who do not believe it is a genuine disorder.

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  7. Ella,

    I appreciate your honest struggle with mental illness, raising more questions than providing answers. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder over 20 years ago and at times something strikes me that comes out of the blue, something I’m not prepared for at all.

    I do believe as you do, that writing is very therapeutic. I look forward to reading more of your work and hope you will check mine out as well.

    Be well,

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